Are young people currently half washed or half dressed? Do we believe what we see on the streets or on the TV? We’ve gone beyond Casual Friday to just rolling out of bed and paying no attention to our clothes.
On Friday, The Wall Street Journal published an article on finding new men’s style icons. In “Why Admiring Cary Grant’s Style Ages You,” Jacob Gallagher notes that “We are not all white, fit, hetero men with dashing good looks, and the range of style icons men reference has come to reflect that.”
Okay, that shouldn’t be a problem. Mr. Gallagher replaces Cary Grant, Paul Newman and Steve McQueen with younger, hipper (and living) role models for what to wear to look good.
The U-Neck Tee Shirt Commercial
Now, will somebody please tell today’s young men about these male fashion icons? And while you’re at it, mention that fact to the creative team at the advertising agency for Downy Fabric Softener.
The commercial “U-Neck Tee Shirt” shows a young man on his first date with a young woman. She presents herself well in a summery print dress. He shows up in a tee shirt that is all stretched out at the neck. It looks like something I would toss in the charity donations bag. We are expected to think this is because the tee shirt is “half-washed,” whatever that means. To me, it means “still dirty,” not stretched out of shape.
When the woman points out, tactfully, that he does not look good, the man looks at his shirt in astonishment, as if he had no idea that it was a mess.
The question I had upon viewing this commercial was not, “Why is that tee shirt all baggy?” I wondered, “Why is that young man wearing a tee shirt on a first date in a nice restaurant?”
Young Men Oblivious to What They Wear
Both Susanne and I have written posts about the male proclivity to pay no attention whatever to what they put on their bodies. Suze wrote about “The New (Un) Dress Code” for work environments and I did one on “Getting Men to Dress Up.” In that post, I noted the difference between how men and women dress when they are going out for a nice evening.
Now I see a commercial which presents it as alright for a man to make no effort at all on a date as long as his tee shirt isn’t baggy. Men might note (but probably won’t) the way in which the woman in the commercial responds. She regards her “date” with dismay, probably thinking that he considered her opinion of him so unimportant he didn’t even bother to look in the mirror before walking out the door.
This man is the poster child for clueless masculinity and I have two words for him: Grow. Up. Women notice what you wear. It matters to us for multiple reasons and it should matter to you, too, if you want to get past Step One in the relationship process..
Half Dressed: Pajamas in Public
In another current trend, both young men and women go out the door in pajamas. Yes, pajamas. As in, “I rolled out of bed and went out the door.” CNN calls it, “The Battle of Appropriate vs. Comfy.” I suppose that this was the inevitable next step after track suits and yoga pants.
I’m sure that, for women, this evolved gradually:
“I’m driving the kids to school and then going to the gym so I’ll just put on my yoga pants.”
And then you remember that you need milk and eggs so you stop at the supermarket and do your shopping in yoga pants. Now that has morphed into:
“The kids are late to school so I’ll just jump into the car in my pajamas and get dressed when I’m home.”
Then you add the supermarket, the pharmacy, and the post office on your way home and you’ve got pajamas in public.
For both men and women, it might also have started with working from home. Why get dressed if you’re not going to see anyone all day? And then something comes up and you run out of the house in your pajamas. Would you want your boss to see you dressed like that?
Now, to make it worse, celebrities have picked up on the pajamas-in-public trend, fashion houses are presented pajama outfits designed to be worn in public, and the media are running stories on how to participate in this trend without looking sloppy. Here’s a tip. You can’t. Even a beautiful woman like Elle Fanning looks stupid — half dressed — in her pajamas and sneakers on the Upper East Side of Manhattan.
Half Dressed: Rompers
I won’t even go out to get the paper from the driveway in my pajamas, which makes me doubly old-fashioned and un-cool. (newspaper + pajamas) But, then, I grew up in the day when mothers exclaimed, “You’re not going out of the house looking like that, young lady.”
Now I look at young women walking around Boston wearing one-piece sun outfits called rompers that have pants so short their butt cheeks show. I don’t even know what these things are called. And I wonder how their mothers let them go out of the house looking like that. (Okay, I know they don’t live with their mothers anymore. But, still.) This week I saw a young woman trying to tug her shorts down so she wasn’t so exposed on the city street but there wasn’t enough fabric.
I stand by a woman’s right to wear what she wants wherever she wants but, really, this is just asking to get groped. I wanted to pinch her butt cheek simply to make a point.
A Swing of the Pendulum?
Are we seeing just another swing of the fashion pendulum? Will it swing back to more formal clothes at some point or am I being unrealistic? Whatever happens, I will say this:
- What you wear says something about who you are.
- Women notice what men wear, so make an effort.
- You never have a second chance to make a first impression.
- No one wants to see you in your pajamas. No one.
- It’s better to be safe than sorry.
No one is asking you to buy a new “Sunday best” outfit or wear a hat to the office. Those days are gone. But, surely, it’s not too much to ask people to put pay attention to what they wear and put some clothes on when they leave the house.