When I wrote the post about Powerball and read up on lottery winners who had blown their money, I started to wonder about something that should be obvious but isn’t.
It’s the same issue that arose in the post about HBO’s series, “Ballers.” Why do so many Americans seem clueless about money at any level? the answer is simple: We don’t teach real money management to our kids.
Granted, most of us will never have to worry about financial windfalls in the millions, as lottery winners and NFL players do, but the same principal applies to more ordinary levels of economic management.
The Consequences of Cluelessness
Here’s a few examples of what happens when folks are clueless about money:
- I once read an article about a company that went out of business and sent its employees each a check for the money they had contributed to 401K accounts.
Instead of rolling the savings over into another 401K or even investing it elsewhere, they treated it as found money and spent it on depreciating assets like cars, boats and snow machines. Result: They not only blew their retirement savings, they incurred a huge tax bill.
- Women are “persuaded” to spend money they can’t afford on designer shoes and handbags, but don’t save for more important things. Remember Carrie Bradshaw on Sex and the City coming up short on money to buy her apartment when the building went condo? She had 100 pairs of $400 shoes and thought she’d only spent $4,000. Do the math. Miranda did and Carrie was shocked.
- One of my colleagues at a technology company took out a home equity loan. Then employee and spouse blew the money on ski and tennis equipment and vacations on which to use them.
- A former neighbor bought what they wanted and put it all on credit, never worrying about the balance they carried or the interest they were paying.
- A woman on my staff continually put off joining the 401K plan (with matching company contributions) because she “needed” to buy so many consumer goods, like a new camera, instead.
Water and Bad Math
- While walking in Las Vegas on a business trip, I heard the man in front of me say to his wife, “I’ve got it all figured out. We each just have to win back $750 tonight and we’ll be even again.” As Penn and Teller say, Las Vegas was built on Lake Mead and bad math.
- Young people complain they don’t earn enough money, but they sport multiple expensive tattoos and the latest smartphone.
- Smokers indulge their habit without adding up the cost of cigarettes. Here in Massachusetts a pack costs $9.95. Over a year, that’s $3,632—enough to purchase more important (and healthier things). Over 20 years, though, that pack-a-day habit will cost them a staggering $72,635. Up in smoke.
What About Home Economics?
Whether real or fictional, comedy or tragedy, the fact is that way too many people have not the foggiest idea how to manage their money. But why? This is the richest country in the world; why wouldn’t everyone know this?
Well, for one reason, we don’t teach young people sound money management in school or anywhere else. When I was in high school, girls had to take Home Economics. That sounds like a good place to teach students how to manage money, maintain a sound credit rating, pay bills on time, avoid high interest rates and other important financial issues.
Granted, I took this course a long time ago but all we did in class was sew an apron, make popcorn balls, and bake cookies. We didn’t even learn to make dinner.
These days both boys and girls take this course, if it’s even offered. That’s a step in the right direction. I hope that means things have improved in terms of preparing kids for the real world. Based on the examples I see around us, though, I’m not so sure.
Setting a Good Example
We were lucky: our parents set a good example. Every payday they sat down at the table with my dad’s paycheck and the rent money that came in from the apartment upstairs. They spread white envelopes on the table and put some money into each one: house, food, car, insurance, clothes, and even vacation. My dad never bought anything he didn’t have the money to afford—in cash.
Mom clipped coupons and went to multiple markets to take advantage of the weekly specials at each one. We ate well but somehow, she always managed to save a little from her food budget. She often spent this on things the four of us needed but that weren’t in the budget. I thought this was an adult thing and all parents did it.
Our parents taught us not to waste money. We learned not to buy what we couldn’t afford. They made us work and save for what we wanted. We learned the difference between “want” and “need” and how to deal with both. These are lessons that have served all of us well.
How Do They Learn Money Management?
But what about the millions of kids whose parents don’t set such an example? How and where do they learn sound money management? Are the better home economics classes better now? It seems not. Are there high school courses to teach the basics? Do churches, Scout troops, athletic clubs or other organizations offer any training? Probably not.
So how do young people learn to avoid the trap of instant gratification? How do they learn the lessons we picked up just watching our parents make the most of what they had? Does anyone teach them this, ever?